Esoteric Domination by Mistress Jasmine

I wanted to take a few moments today to discuss the most important element of any BDSM scene; communication.

Your Mistress is many things, but a mind reader is not one of them. Therefore, it’s in your best interest as the sub/slave to be as thorough as possible in discussing your interests.

I need to know what you have done and enjoyed a lot, things you enjoy somewhat/sometimes/or if it pleases the Mistress, things you don’t enjoy but are willing to accept as a punishment if that is the nature of the session, and things you haven’t done yet but have fantasised about and would like to try. I also need to know your hard limits, or things you know you definitely do not want to do.

This communication will always begin during our email contact, in which I encourage you feel free to discuss in detail your experience, fetishes, fantasies, etc. If there’s something I don’t enjoy, I’ll simply let you know. But rest assured, nothing you say will shock Me or even be something I’ve never heard before. I’ve been a Domme long enough that at this point that I’ve pretty much heard it all (and done quite a bit of it 😎). It’s important to include as much information as possible in your emails so I can properly prepare for the session.

In addition to our email communication, we will also have an in person consultation before any physical play begins; this is your opportunity to speak freely and clarify or elaborate on anything that was mentioned in email. If anything is ambiguous, I will ask the appropriate questions to clarify before we start. I will also give you your safewords at this time.

I’ve found that experienced subs are usually very good at communication, but the newbies can sometimes be a bit reluctant, or claim that they never tried anything so they don’t know what they’d like. But, even if that’s the case, surely something brought you to this place of seeking a Domme; a particular fetish, BDSM videos you watched online, an experience you had in a previous relationship, something that sparked this interest. Tell Me about it. The more I can get into your head, the more enjoyable the session time will be for both of us.

I can think of a few unfortunate incidents where better communication could have led to a better session. In one occasion, the sub waited until literally the session was over and he was getting ready to leave before mentioning a specific fetish he had. It felt like such a lost opportunity because I could have done several fun things with that fetish during our session, had I known about it upfront. Another time a sub waited until the actual last 5 minutes of the session to request a specific activity, which would have needed way more than 5 minutes to plan, prepare, and engage in. Again, a lost opportunity.

So, don’t hold anything back, let me into your head and confess to Me all your dirty little secrets, and if you’re a good slave, Mistress will bring them to life! 😉