Esoteric Domination by Mistress Jasmine

I wanted to take moment to write a few paragraphs in light of an incident I experienced earlier today.

TLDR; If it’s my first time seeing you and you did not respond to the confirmation email THE DAY BEFORE your session, then you DO NOT have a session scheduled the next day.

When scheduling a session for the first time, there will be a couple of “check points” that I absolutely need responses to so I know we’re still on the same page and moving forward with our session plan. Reason being, there are a certain amount of “time wasters” in this industry that will go through all the steps to schedule a session, and then just ghost at the last minute. As in, schedule the session, and then cease any further communication, flake out, not follow through. In my years of doing this, I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how sincere someone sounds when initially emailing, the possibility for this time-wasting behaviour is always something I have to be cautious of. This is the reason many Dommes require deposits. I don’t initially require a deposit (unless you’ve ghosted in the past), but because I don’t require a deposit, I expect timely and consistent communication from you in a clearly defined manner prior to our session.

In the first step, after we’ve agreed on a session, I will send a basic email acknowledging the date and time I’ve scheduled you for, a general idea of location, and a notification that I will be sending your specific confirmation instructions the day prior to your session. That you should be expecting that email and to respond to it promptly. Though it’s not essentially necessary that you respond to this initial email, a quick courtesy response (“great, I’ll be looking for those instructions”etc) is highly appreciated and lets me know you’re “still there”.

In step two, I send the aforementioned confirmation instructions. This will be sent the day before your scheduled session, it will reiterate the scheduled time, it will include a phone number that you will be expected to text for your final confirmation the day of your session, usually two hours prior. It will include more specific location information and a few other details. IT IS ABSOLUTELY 100% VITAL THAT I RECEIVE A RESPONSE TO THIS EMAIL THE DAY BEFORE YOUR SESSION. The sooner the better, but bottom line, if I haven’t received your response before I go to bed, I will assume you were wasting my time, I will plan to do something else with my day, and you WILL NOT have a session scheduled the next day. At that point, don’t bother emailing me or texting me the day of, because I’m already doing something else. I have other obligations and other income opportunities in my life, and I don’t like sitting around wasting time. If I don’t have a session scheduled the next day, that I am 100% sure of before I go to bed, I will plan to do something else with my day. I’m also often not reachable by phone when attending to one of these other obligations, so contacting me or showing up at my location when you didn’t follow instructions and confirm the night before is pointless; I won’t be there and most likely will be unreachable.

*There may be one small exception to this; if your session is scheduled later in the day, late afternoon or early evening, and you genuinely have some kind of technical or other difficulty that prevented you from responding to the email confirmation the day before, then you can try contacting me the day of and there could be a chance I would still be able to see you. But don’t expect it, and again this is only for genuine issues and late day sessions. If your session was scheduled for earlier in the day though, it wouldn’t be possible under any circumstance.

The final step of course is the text message you send two hours prior to your scheduled session time. This assures me that all is going as planned and I can go ahead and start getting ready. (I don’t start getting ready until I receive this text, so being sure to send it on time or earlier is vital to giving me adequate preparation time).

If you had a genuine problem that prevented you from responding to the confirmation email, and you had an early day session scheduled, the best thing you can do at that point is get your issue sorted out, then send an apology email with a request to reschedule, and as long as I believe you’re being sincere, I may give you one more chance, or I may require a deposit.

Or, if you don’t want to/can’t be bothered with all this required communication, then you can just go ahead and send a deposit. I’ll schedule the time for you and get ready for the session. If you don’t show up, well, the deposit is non refundable so my time wasn’t wasted.

But all in all, timely responses to a couple emails is much simpler and really not that much to ask.